Hurt People Hurt People

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By Bronagh Lyons

Sometimes people say hurtful things.

Sometimes people are hurting inside, and they project that onto you. 

They blame you for their hurt.

They call you names.

Maybe they say hurtful things from a place of “caring”.

Maybe they use passive aggressive remarks.

Or give you back handed compliments.

Their negative jibes can come in multiple forms, sometimes hidden. 

But the thing is, often they are not conscious of what their actual issue is. There is usually something deep inside of them that is triggered. They are hurting.

Remember this, there is NOTHING you can do to hurt/ frustrate/ annoy/ offend someone else.

It is something within them that is triggered by you.

Really take that in.

You are not responsible for other people’s feelings. 

And you are under no obligation to take in their hurt or pain. 

You do not have to accept their hurtful words as truth about you. 

You don’t have to listen to what they say about you. 

As the saying goes “what other people think of me is none of my business” 

What other people think of you is their perception based off of their life experience up to that point, their likes and dislikes, their personality etc. 

It has nothing to do with you. 

It is not your business.

So, the next time someone is sassy to you, you do not have to react or respond.

Hurt people hurt people.

It is their issue not yours.




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